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Rotorua Community Hospice Stories

Stories of the individuals who have touched our lives.

This is Murray's story

“The Hospice nurses have a very strong patient focus. The care and support we received was amazing”.

Murray Cheater was a humble man who didn’t talk about his athletic achievements unless asked. He represented New Zealand in Hammer Throw at the 1974 Commonwealth and 1976 Olympics. Generous with his time, he coached many local athletes and was a well-respected business owner.

While sport was always a passion, family was Murray’s number one priority. In his final days, it was important to Murray and his family for him to be at home surrounded by those who loved him.

A nurse herself, Murray’s wife Eileen appreciated the individualised care the family received. “The Hospice nurses have a very strong patient focus. Murray was assessed every day and his wishes and those of our family were honoured. The care and support we received was amazing”.

Hospice worked alongside the family, helping them to understand what was happening. Guidance from the nurses, when explaining to Murray’s grandchildren what was happening to Poppa, was invaluable.

“When I struggled to find the words to explain it to my kids, the Hospice team were a huge help” said Murray’s daughter Jacqueline Udyavar. “I was blown away by the emotional support we received.

The Cheater Family’s advice to anyone considering Hospice care for themselves or their loved one, is simple.

“Pick up the phone. Hospice know what’s needed when you don’t even know yourself. We felt really supported. Whatever the family wanted, the Hospice team made it happen”.

Rest in Peace Murray Cheater 4 August 2020

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Rotorua Community Hospice Stories

Stories of the individuals who have touched our lives.